Lizzy & Collins- Dating Advice

     Lizzy and Collins may have had one of the most unsuccessful relationships you could imagine, there is still a lot to learn from their relationship; even if you do live in the 21st century. One of the most common things that we hear about relationships is to take it slow. Don't just jump into a committed relationship without thinking things through. The problem with Lizzy and Collins relationship was that they didn't have any time to get to know each other! It was only a matter of days before Collins made a proposal of marriage.

     The key to a happy marriage is to know and the love the person that you will spend the rest of your life with. Lizzy barely knew Collins and she certainly didn't love him. They were polar opposites and Lizzy knew that. Collins never stopped talking about himself, so within that small time they were together, Lizzy could barely squeeze in a word of conversation. Back in their day, there were no dates. Instead, there were family dinners and balls where you could meet men and spend time talking to them. In this century, we are lucky to spend as many years as we like getting to know the person that we will marry. Because you have this ability, you should take full advantage of it. Spend time alone getting to know each other and don't forget to let the other person talk. If you always talk about yourself, you'll never get to know the other person.

     Obviously, Lizzy had no interest in Collins, but even if she had, it was still better that she declined his proposal. In his proposal speech, all he talked about was their financial future and how he felt that it was his responsibility to get married. If all someone cares about is how much money you have or how much you will inherit, that's probably a sign to just walk away. In this century, people may not talk about you parents death and inheriting their house when they die, but finances shouldn't be the only reason for any relationship or marriage. A relationship should be based on love, or at the least the happiness between two people. It should not just feel like a responsibility.

     Lizzy and Collins relationship may not have been successful, but you can still learn some lessons from them. Don't let things move too quickly, because you want to know the person you're in a relationship with. Make sure you're not the only one talking. Think about the happiness of both individuals, not just finances. And last but not least, if you don't really love someone, feel free to say no to the relationship like Lizzy did.