Dating Tips

All the single people out there can take a lot from the novel Pride and Prejudice. Elizabeth’s “relationship” or acquaintance with Mr. Wickham can be used to uncover some basic dating tips that may be useful to modern singles. Although their relationship was not one that is appreciable, we can still take away many tips from this acquaintance. (Please note that the following tips are coming from someone who has never been in a relationship and thus may be rendered inaccurate and/or false by those with more experience.)

One of the many tips that this relationship brings about is to not judge a person too quickly. If you judge a book by its cover, you’ll probably end up never reading another book because you’re too lazy to read the first chapter. Likewise, you can make your initial judgments about a person, but make sure that you know more about the person you want to get serious with. The person you see as amazing now might be hiding something, as Wickham did, to show you that he/she is a better person. You want to make sure the person you are going to “get down” with is not a serial killer or someone charged with armed robbery. Although Wickham was never charged with armed robbery, his behavior with Darcy can be compared to such actions because he was hiding it from Elizabeth. Not being able to express who you truly are is a big factor in terms of whether you should take a relationship to the next level. If you feel that you are comfortable with this person and seem to like-like them, then you will be able to take it to the next level. This brings me to my second tip: Do not rush things!

Maybe you’re on your way to making that decision of getting serious with this person and that he or she is “the one.” If so, make sure you don’t mess things up. What this means is that, make sure you are not being pushy or trying to get the relationship to develop faster. If the relationship is meant to be, it will happen on its own. This is not to say that you cannot help it move along, but try to do so at a pace that you and your partner are comfortable with. Elizabeth was trying to get into the relationship with Wickham quite quickly, without considering the situation at hand or his background, as I stated above. Back then, it was necessary for women to be pushy because their life depended on it. The good thing that happened to Elizabeth was she had a caring community that was looking out for her and was able to warn her about the dangers surrounding Wickham. The main contributor to this act of kindness was Darcy. This leads me to my third tip: the best way to get to know an eligible someone is not solely through a dating site or your smart phone.

Nowadays, people think they are really high-tech with their fancy iPads, tablets, smart phones, etc. But when it comes to dating, one should not solely rely on these pieces of equipment. It is true that these items may help you communicate with an eligible someone, but the cold, hard truth is that you should meet a person face-to-face or else you’ll end up like Manti Te’o. No one wants to be a Manti Te’o. Therefore, get off your lazy buttocks and go to the local Starbucks or bar and get to know that person on a more personal, less robotic level. Elizabeth was forced to meet people face-to-face at balls because otherwise, she would never have met her eligible someone. Dating sites are nice to see who is in the game along with you, but they should never be relied on solely.

With these helpful tips, I hope that you all, along with me, will be able to find an eligible someone in the near future.